1.
ASK YOUR IVF CLINIC ABOUT THEIR REQUEREMENTS FOR THE GESTATIONAL
CARRIER.
IVF clinics may have
different requirements for Gestational Carriers.
Some clinics may require a women to have at least one child, be under
certain age, for example, younger than 35. Many doctors will express
concern if the Gestational Carrier is overweight. In all cases, your
treating reproductive endocrinologist is the best person to talk to
prior beginning your search for a Surrogate mother. He or she will
educate you on what is the selection criteria.
2.
PREPARE A LETTER TO THE GESTATIONAL CARRIER.
In order to save time, write few paragraphs
about your family, your
situation, and IVF treatment plans. Make sure that you explain clearly
your goals, time frames, and requirements to the potential candidates.
3.
MEET YOUR CANDIDATE IN PERSON.
It is very important to meet your candidate
( s ) in person, unless you are hiring an agency or a surrogate
professional who has some experience in screening candidates. E-mail or
telephone communication may not be accurate. Meet your candidate (s),
her husband, children, etc. before making final decision.
4.
ALWAYS HAVE SURROGACY CONTRACT.
You need a Surrogacy Contract before your
surrogate begins any tests or
/and medical procedure. If you do not have a Contract in place, you are
taking a risk of violating local laws, not even mentionning about
jeopardizing your parental rights, in case things go into a wrong
direction.
5.
NEVER MAKE ANY PAYMENTS PRIOR TO SIGNING SURROGACY CONTRACT.
If you make any payments to your Surrogate
prior signing Surrogacy
Contract, it is very likely that you are dealing with the scammer. Do
not expect to get your money back. Not everybody is honest in this
world. Pay the price of being ignorant.
6.
NEVER AGREE TO MAKE ANY UP FRONT PAYEMENTS.
If your surrogate asks you to pay $2000-$3000
upfront or "contract
signing fees", it is very high chance that she is a scammer. It is very
high chance that you will never see her or your money again. Make sure,
that on a Contract, you surrogate is reimbursed "by procedure".
6.
WHAT "NO AGENCY" REALLY MEANS
You may see posting from potential surrogate
mothers stating "no
agency" on their ads. It is very likely that a person has something to
hide and believes that you are not experienced enough to uncover it, or
that she was previousely turned down by the agencies. In some cases,
the candidate may say " I want to save you money", but in the reality
it means "I do not want anyone who has knowlegde and experience in
surrogacy to be around".
7.
TRADITIONAL SURROGACY.
Although Traditional Surrogacy is still
around, it is much riskier than
the Gestational Surrogacy. The biological mother of the child has the
parental rights. Please, check the state laws before entering
Traditional Surrogacy arrangements. You need an experienced attorney
who will make sure that the Surrogate's rights are properly terminated
and that the payments you made to the Surrogate are not considered to
be " baby selling" by the local laws.
8.
HOME INSEMINATION SCAM.
You may encounter a surrogate who is offering
a "home insemination" to
"save money". Artificial insemination with fresh sperm sample performed
by trained physician using fertility medication (IUI ) gives only 10%
success rate per attempt. Sperm loses its motility and becomes "dead"
after one hour. You still want to try "home insemination"?
9.
REPORT SCAM.
SurrogacyForAll web site accepts scam
reports. If you encountered a person who took the money from you and
disappeared, let the world know about it. We will maintain the list of
scammers on this site.
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